We’re building a house. Actually, we’re building The House. This is the one that we plan on raising our son in and growing old in. We plan on staying there long enough to make planting trees a worthwhile endeavor and our son’s handprints will be put in the driveway.
We’re trying to plan for 20 years worth of contingencies. Which means that while we might not need an extra bedroom right now, where would we want it to be if the need arises. And while the basement won’t be finished right away, we’re planning on finishing it someday and everything needs to be in the right place for that to happen.
It’s not the most financially responsible thing that we’ve ever done. Talking to my mother about the way we’re taking out a bedroom to make a sitting room in the master bedroom, she said “you need to think about resale value” and I was able to say that I wasn’t planning on caring one bit about resale value. This will, hopefully, be it for us.
But there’s a slew of other financial considerations.
For our current place, we got a 3 year arm mortgage. It kept the payments down and we really weren’t planning on staying here any longer than that. Now we’re learning the ins and outs of construction loans and locking in rates and all the fun stuff that goes along with that. Unfortunately lendingtree.com doesn’t handle construction loans so we’re left to the mercy of the salespeople at our local banks.
Then, of course, there’s the price. It’s well over what we were planning on spending when we started looking, although it’s still affordable. I have my days in which the massive amount of the mortgage overwhelms me a bit.
I think that the one thing that makes us pause every once in a while is that this is the first time we’ve ever had conspicuous consumption. It’s a pricy place. It looks like a pricy place. People will know that we have more than most people our age. And we’re not used to that.
We drive cars that are several years old. Our current place in nice, but cozy. I tend to wear name brand clothes, but I make no secret of the fact that my mother takes me shopping whenever I see her and foots the bill. I can count the number of toys we’ve bought our son on one hand (the grandparents are responsible for the massive pile of toys that take up half our living room). We don’t eat out all that often; I take my lunch to work. We don’t have any expensive hobbies – even when Brian plays golf it’s at a public course 99% of the time.
A few people know that we have substantial savings. My business partner realizes that Brian and I were able to fund our start up without blinking an eye.
So to think that everyone will know, is going to be a bit weird for us. But we’ll get used to it. And that’s not why we’re building it. We’re doing it because we want our son to have a place to grow up, and I want to finally unpack all the boxes because I will have found a place to call home and, as Brian said,
“What else are we saving all this money for?”
And because it’s going to be perfect. Absolutely perfect.